google-site-verification=chhsolWsW6xIrdApI31shtebQTh65H0DYzReja6Y0JU The Emotional Cost of Divorce - The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

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14th Nov 2019

Can It Be All So Simple

When it comes to getting over and getting through things sometimes you have to go back to the beginning, not to dwell on the past, but to learn from it.

Episode One of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide takes off with a running start as I take you back to the "good old days" when I first laid eyes on the beautiful woman who would eventually become my ex-wife — when I was bright-eyed, thought I looked like something and believed the power of love could raise the dead. The times were innocent enough, or were they?

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About the Podcast

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

For Eric's day-to-day musings, follow him on Instagram: @ericlpayne

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About the Podcast

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide
The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a biweekly, serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of a man in his forties navigating the challenges of starting over in life and love after divorce.
This is a podcast about real life! It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned.

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage and fatherhood blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com), tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From ghosting to online dating, to the self-care that is required of a 43-year-old, divorced black man in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency and a refreshing sense of humor. Especially when it comes to making fun of himself. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey to finding love again.
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Eric Payne

I got divorced in 2015. In my despair, I read no less than thirty books on relationships and divorce and took a ton of horrible advice. It didn’t take me long to realize there was little help out there that really captured, spoke to, or even came close to understanding what I was experiencing from one day to the next. Most of it peddled hope that "things" would get better in some far off future or chronicled some miraculous reconciliation story that when I tried to duplicate, only got me cursed out by my ex-wife. I created The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide to tell the story that isn't being told, that men, black men specifically, are people too — that have real feelings and real desires, and sometimes we're just as scared as women when it comes to rejection and failing at love. And like me, if you're willing to dig deep enough and work hard enough you can turn an unfortunate incident into a springboard to discover yourself, discover joy, and maybe find love again.

I am a Chicago-born, New York City-bred and currently residing in Atlanta. A marketing and advertising guy most of my adult life, a writer since the second grade, and a storyteller since before even then. I've published two books of poetry, a parenting book, and the groundbreaking fatherhood and marriage blog, MakesMeWannaHoller.com. I have no problem laughing at myself and learning from and sharing the lessons failure teaches. I believe in superheroes, practicing gratitude every chance I get and love my children to the point that they are completely annoyed by me.